Sunday, April 20, 2008

Where Have All My Children Gone?

******UPDATED WITH PICTURES*******

My brother's puppy, Anabelle. She's a real pip - all personality.

At the mall, we met an elephonkey and rode the carousel and the train - several times.
The 2 princesses - chillin' on the couch, exhausted from their long day at the mall.

Callie and OG bowled for the very 1st time - they were FABULOUS! Notice the excellent form...



I'm in Pittsburgh helping out my brother. He had emergency abdominal surgery last week and is limited in what he can do for a while.
Cindy is working from home for the week and taking care of the babies (they are also in 1/2 day care, which is a whole other anxiety for me to deal with) and I brought OG with me so she could spend some time with her 1/2 sister Callie and her moms.

We got here early Friday evening. 1st thing Saturday morning I brought OG to D and M's because they offered to watch her for the day while I did stuff around my brother's house.
Olivia has always been slow to warm, but not this time. We walked in the door, OG and Callie looked at each other for about 2 seconds, then ran off into the basement to play. Uhhhh...excuse me, aren't you going to miss me? He-llo-ooo? No reply. Gone. Fine. Whatever.
Darcy said later when I spoke to her that these girls seemed to have some kind of connection. It was immediate and lasting, though they'd only met once before - more than 7 months ago - a lifetime for a 3 and 4-year-old. She was amazed by their interactions all day long. I was, simply, jealous that I couldn't be there to see it all unfold.

I'm a little surprised, but so completely thrilled that these children, all of these donor sibs, have unexplained connections with each other. It was apparent, too, when we were in Utah. OG and Syd took to each other without a moment's hesitation, Olivia just adored Cam and Spence and Syd took over as Mommy to Jake and Emma. I look forward now to spending time with Hollie and Toni and seeing the same wonderful relationships blossom with Mikaela and Kyron.

Back to the story...
I called later to arrange to pick her up and they all had such a fabulous time that they offered to keep her overnight. OK, no problem. I get it. It's much more fun to be there riding bikes and playing with all the toys and watching movies and playing with Callie and her cool moms than to sit around here and help me clean.
So last night I just cried myself to sleep - lonely without all my girls and my little boy. Boo hoo.

This morning I woke up, showered, and got ready to go meet Darcy and the girls at the mall. We were going to eat, play, ride the carousel and the train, play some more, then I would leave, happily, with my little girl. Maybe not. It didn't turn out that way. Darcy offered to keep her another night because Callie and Olivia couldn't bare to part ways. They were convinced that it would be best for Olivia to live with Callie and I could come visit whenever I wanted. They used all their best arguments, but I am not sold. I want my little girl back! It's the 1st time ever that she would rather be without me. I'm not sure I can bare it.

I'll make another attempt at retrieving my daughter tomorrow and we'll see how that goes.

For now, I leave you, a lonely Mama in Pittsburgh.

PS - Darcy lost her camera, so I left mine with her to take pictures tonight and will post some pix when I get it back.

7 comments:

K J and the kids said...

Here are all of my answers :)
So glad that Olivia can spend some time with Callie. how fun for them.
and that you get to spend time with Darc and Mare makes me a little jealous. Give everyone hugs from us.

Can't WAIT to see pictures.

Tammy said...

Are you crazy? Think of this as a VACATION!! LOL! Seriously--think of it this way--Cindy gets bonding time with the babies as does Olivia with Callie. You will be home back to your same old routine before you know it. Tell Tony-I hope he has a speedy recovery!

ajs4ever said...

Awww- but think of the fun they are having!! They will be buddies for life:) Hang in there momma:)

Stef said...

i just recently spent one night away from my little girl in SF. I felt empty .. for about 2 minutes and then relaxed in a huge king bed, watched movies and ate Goobers until I passed out. I got to sleep for 10 hours NON STOP and take a long hot shower with out a fuss.... I loved it.. would i want to do it all the time.... no.. I miss her too much.. every couple months or so?? OH YEAH!!!

KellyBelly said...

I know exactly how you feel! My kids want to live at their cousins house! On the one hand I am so thankful they have a safe, loving, place to go and on the other hand I wished they'd miss me a little:) Maybe even fight to go home and not stay everytime.

K J and the kids said...

You little dyke.
LOVE your hair !

hotomiky said...

wow... we all are so jealous! We wish we could spend time with you all more including kj and the kids!

Wow... Callie and Olivia grew so much!!

Looks so much fun!